Category: Self-esteem
The Myth of “I’ll Be Happy When…”
The myth of "I'll be happy when..." has been exposed over and over again. We pretty much agree that conditioning our feeling of happiness on acquiring a better car, job or partner is a sure recipe for wasting precious time in a wishful state. It's like...
To Ask Or Not To Ask?
"I can't ask for help, what if people will say no? They probably think it's not worth the trouble. It's so humiliating; better not to ask!" Did you ever feel like this? It's hard not to take it personally, especially if you had some bad experiences. You might end up...
Expressing Emotions: Trick Or Treat?
Darwin was fascinated by emotions and concluded that their job was basically to warn us quickly when a situation is safe or not. Anger gives us strength, fear teaches us to stay away from danger, and love keeps us bonded to others. But we have a complicated...
The Harmony of The Whole
Nobody likes to feel they're not good at something. Although we know that we can't excel in all areas, having the proof to the contrary shoved in our face is just as annoying as a pebble in your shoe. It spoils your good mood and ruffles your nice opinions about...
So You Think You Deserve To Be Successful?
We were talking for 15 minutes now about how she should have been fine. She had a solid strategy crafted, she knew what she had to do and she knew how to do it. And yet, she didn't have the success she was "supposed" to get. She felt like the little match girl,...
The Right To Appeal
In the previous post, I spoke about the importance of evaluating things in the context and how this can improve our understanding and relationships. However, you might want to extend the courtesy to yourself, when it comes to evaluating your performance, qualities,...
The Short End Of The Stick
When it comes to perfectionism, it seems women got the short end of the stick.Not only their physiology makes them more prone to it , but they are also more prone to “inherit” a parent’s perfectionism (especially from their mothers). In addition to this, women also...
The Day I Nearly Drowned
The wind had been howling for two days and two nights, raising high walls of foamy water. The sand was assaulting our eyes, skin and nostrils; we were craving the relief of a swim, while slowly turning into burnt chicken nuggets under the blazing sun. But it was too...
Reflections And Refractions
When you learned from an early age that you need to seek approval and validation outside, you will do everything you can to meet other people's expectations. You will make compromises, say yes when you'd rather say no and never upset or disappoint them. But a life of...
How Do You Shoot Yourself In The Foot?
When your deepest belief is that you're not good enough, feeling that you're not worthy (of love, success or prosperity) comes naturally. So what do you do?You sabotage yourself - in one or more of those areas: Relationships- you can't say NO or set boundaries- you...
It’s Not You!
When you work as hard as a mule and yet bitterly fail, is your first thought "I'm not good enough"?If you're in full-blown perfectionist mode, this might be quite often your go-to explanation. I know how it's like when after painstaking efforts you're at your wits'...
Are Control Freaks The Big Bad Wolf?
They say perfectionists are control freaks. They always need to have the last word, they think they know better and everything must go according to their plans, or else. In a world confused by so many options, knowing what you want does attract attention.Knowing...
Blushing Bride
What happens when being asked about somebody's performance, knowledge or skills you say they are nothing special?That other people are far better and you don't really think the person can do as good a job as others, even though his/her resume looks pretty good? If...
That Unique Flavour
How many times were you told that your brother / sister / colleague / friend is better /smarter / more intelligent / more... than you? How many times did you tell yourself the same things? Those things might have been spoken with good intentions by relatives /...
Are You Waiting For The Cat?
Three days ago, chased by a neighbourhood cat, with neck and head feathers gone entirely, a wood pigeon fledgling arrived in my backyard. I was worried my dog might get her, but my 9 years old Collie was happy to just lazily sleep on the grass.
YOU are the Knight In Shining Armour
I’m not ashamed that I still love to read fantasy books. We all have our ways to escape in a different world, although many adults these days consume their stories mostly as movies. But yesterday this idea crossed my mind: What if the beautiful princess (- or maiden...
The Joy Sucking Vampires You Need To Avoid
Are you on the verge of significant changes in your life? Are you starting a project, maybe something that you have never done before? Are you transitioning from doing a job that feels kind of “blah” to something that really inspires you? As Frank Herbert said,...
Conditional Self-Esteem Vs. Unconditional Self-Esteem
by David Burns, M.D. “There are two dramatically different ways a person can achieve self-esteem. You can say, “I am a worthwhile person because…” After the “because,” you can include the basis you have decided upon for self-esteem. This could be your success and hard...
Declaration Of Self-Esteem
By Virginia Satir "The following was written in answer to a 15-year-old girl’s question, “How can I prepare myself for a fulfilling life?” I am me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. There are people who have some parts like me but no one...
Family Values And Christmas Cleaning
I was brought up in the tradition of Christmas (and Easter) Cleaning. Mind you, not just the ordinary cleaning, it was THE Cleaning. Capital C cleaning! About a week (-or two) before Christmas you would start to turn your house upside down, beating and washing the...
As I Began To Love Myself – by Charlie Chaplin
"As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know this is “AUTHENTICITY”. As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force...
10 Minutes Quiz
Is stress a normal part of your life? Do you work insanely long hours?
This 10 minutes quiz can tell you if you’re heading towards burnout or not.
Perfectionists R US
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Share, learn, have fun and just be yourself, un-apologetically.
Are You Exhausted And Frustrated With All The Hustling?
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Is Your Self-esteem Strong or Does It Need a Boost?
→ Do you constantly compare yourself with others and focus mainly on your shortcomings?
→ Can you handle criticism and rejection objectively, or does any negative comment shatter your self-view?
→ Do you believe in yourself and in your abilities?
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Perfectionism can be a blessing and it can be a curse. But it doesn’t have to be lonely.
