Category: Self-criticism
Sisyphus Was The Father Of Perfectionists
Success, money, happy relationships - how good it would be if they came easy? The problem is, somehow it's hardwired into our system that we have to work hard for what we want. When I was in school, my mum always made me do extra homework throughout the holidays. It...
The Harmony of The Whole
Nobody likes to feel they're not good at something. Although we know that we can't excel in all areas, having the proof to the contrary shoved in our face is just as annoying as a pebble in your shoe. It spoils your good mood and ruffles your nice opinions about...
The Right To Appeal
In the previous post, I spoke about the importance of evaluating things in the context and how this can improve our understanding and relationships. However, you might want to extend the courtesy to yourself, when it comes to evaluating your performance, qualities,...
The Short End Of The Stick
When it comes to perfectionism, it seems women got the short end of the stick.Not only their physiology makes them more prone to it , but they are also more prone to “inherit” a parent’s perfectionism (especially from their mothers). In addition to this, women also...
The Day I Nearly Drowned
The wind had been howling for two days and two nights, raising high walls of foamy water. The sand was assaulting our eyes, skin and nostrils; we were craving the relief of a swim, while slowly turning into burnt chicken nuggets under the blazing sun. But it was too...
Why Do We Always See The Bad Things First?
There are many ways in which your inner critic makes your life miserable.It pinpoints your mistakes and never sees the good parts. It makes you doubt yourself saying: "Who are you to do this?" It belittles you and spoils the pleasure of a hard-earned success by...
It’s Not You!
When you work as hard as a mule and yet bitterly fail, is your first thought "I'm not good enough"?If you're in full-blown perfectionist mode, this might be quite often your go-to explanation. I know how it's like when after painstaking efforts you're at your wits'...
Blushing Bride
What happens when being asked about somebody's performance, knowledge or skills you say they are nothing special?That other people are far better and you don't really think the person can do as good a job as others, even though his/her resume looks pretty good? If...
Vanquish The Hag!
Man, she's one ugly hag. Wrinkly face full of warts, harsh voice and cackle, claw-like hands - definitely not your "have-a-cookie-dear" Granny. She's not a Halloween character. If you look carefully, you can recognise her as the leading actor of those dark moments...
Cheerleaders Aren’t Just For The Champions
It was only the third class out of the six we had that day, but I could not stay sat any longer. Somewhere in the first ten minutes since our Maths class had started, my stomach decided it was about time to present its content and it would not change its mind. I asked...
YOU are the Knight In Shining Armour
I’m not ashamed that I still love to read fantasy books. We all have our ways to escape in a different world, although many adults these days consume their stories mostly as movies. But yesterday this idea crossed my mind: What if the beautiful princess (- or maiden...
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