Category: Perfectionism

How To Stop Worrying Yourself Sick

How To Stop Worrying Yourself Sick

  Are you reading too much into situations or spend too much time trying to make decisions? Are you going over the same things that have already happened or might happen in the future? Do you panic at every physical discomfort and suspect some life-threatening...

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Are You Fighting With The Shadows?

Are You Fighting With The Shadows?

  Overthinking, like anything else, can be both a blessing and a curse. You do it in a battle, prepare for the worst, you're a good strategist.In day to day life, it's tiresome, and you don't need it all the time. Plus, in relationships, it kills the spontaneity and...

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To Everything There Is A Season…

To Everything There Is A Season…

 At the beginning of March, I had a very weird couple of weeks. Try as I might, I could not bring myself to do any significant work other than a few articles. It was as if the storms that swept over the town took my focus, inspiration and motivation with them. I did...

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The Right To Appeal

The Right To Appeal

  In the previous post, I spoke about the importance of evaluating things in the context and how this can improve our understanding and relationships. However, you might want to extend the courtesy to yourself, when it comes to evaluating your performance, qualities,...

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We Are More Alike, My Friends…

We Are More Alike, My Friends…

   "We are more alike, my friends, than we are unalike." - Dr Maya Angelou Traditional Chinese medicine knew for centuries that feelings affect our body. Each organ is influenced by a specific emotion, an excess of which can lead to imbalances and serious...

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The Day I Nearly Drowned

The Day I Nearly Drowned

  The wind had been howling for two days and two nights, raising high walls of foamy water. The sand was assaulting our eyes, skin and nostrils; we were craving the relief of a swim, while slowly turning into burnt chicken nuggets under the blazing sun. But it was too...

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The Secret Music From The Stone

The Secret Music From The Stone

    Did you know that the Rosslyn Chapel in Scotland holds a musical mystery in its architecture?   The connection between music and mathematics is well known. But who would have thought that the carvings on a 600 years old stone chapel represent the coded...

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The Unfairness Of “All Or Nothing”

The Unfairness Of “All Or Nothing”

  Do you know somebody who constantly reminds you of that one mistake you happened to make?It doesn't matter if your record was impeccable until then, nor that maybe it wasn't your fault. No, they label you and in their eyes, you're stuck in that category for...

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It’s Not You!

It’s Not You!

   When you work as hard as a mule and yet bitterly fail, is your first thought "I'm not good enough"?If you're in full-blown perfectionist mode, this might be quite often your go-to explanation. I know how it's like when after painstaking efforts you're at your wits'...

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Playing For Music’s Sake

Playing For Music’s Sake

  A few years ago I lived in Ireland for 18 months. It was a wonderful experience that I hope I'll get to repeat at some point. One of the beautiful people I met there was the seven years old girl of a family running a local restaurant. I remember one day when I was...

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Rising Above The Noise

Rising Above The Noise

Everybody is giving unsolicited advice these days. From cooking to content marketing, it invades your privacy on all channels. It's in your emails, in all the adds and pop ups of the pages you open - everybody's eager to teach you "how to" anything. It seems you don't...

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The (Well Disguised) Blessings Of A Burnout

The (Well Disguised) Blessings Of A Burnout

  Burnout can damage your health, your career, you personal life.You might give up on your business, sometimes your family might give up on you.Although you might try to hide it, its effects are devastating. And yet, there are (well disguised) blessings to it.1. - It...

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Three Questions To Avoid Burnout

Three Questions To Avoid Burnout

When you work very long hours because you love what you're doing it doesn't feel like burnout. Because there is curiosity, playfulness and passion there. Yes, you're exhausted, but you had such a blast your moral is high. The problem occurs when you get no results -...

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How Do You Know When Enough Is Enough?

How Do You Know When Enough Is Enough?

"Burnout is a state of physical and emotional exhaustion, feelings of ineffectiveness and lack of accomplishment. It can occur after long-term stress in your job, or when you work in a physically or emotionally draining role for a long time." Whether you pull the long...

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Vanquish The Hag!

Vanquish The Hag!

Man, she's one ugly hag. Wrinkly face full of warts, harsh voice and cackle, claw-like hands - definitely not your "have-a-cookie-dear" Granny. She's not a Halloween character. If you look carefully, you can recognise her as the leading actor of those dark moments...

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The time Is NOW!

The time Is NOW!

You have this idea. You know it can solve a real problem, better than the other solutions out there at the moment. That people would benefit immensely from it. But you don't do anything about it, because things aren't perfectly lined up. The conditions aren't perfect...

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Waking Up Galatea

Waking Up Galatea

  Pygmalion was such a talented sculptor that his lifelike creations were the most sought after in the city.His craftsmanship reached perfection when he sculpted Galatea out of ivory. No woman could match its breathtaking beauty. He fell in love with it and lost all...

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Forgiveness Where None Is Due

Forgiveness Where None Is Due

I have a friend who hates learning. When she was a child, she was always scolded and severely punished for things ranging from lack of focus to bad grades. To this day, when it comes to studying her whole being rebels and hates it with a passion.   I thought...

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A Solution (Un)fit For a Perfectionist’s Crisis

A Solution (Un)fit For a Perfectionist’s Crisis

Let’s say you’re the usual type of perfectionist, working yourself to the bone, pulling insanely long work hours. You’re up to date with the best in your field, you review and polish your work about 100,000 times before you consent to release it in the world (still doubting its value).

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The Value Of Small Things

The Value Of Small Things

We are taught to value BIG. Big achievements. Big houses. spending big.But is BIG always best? I believe in the importance of small things, too. Like the small gestures of tenderness and affection – holding hands, adding a flower to her breakfast, sacrificing a night...

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Family Values And Christmas Cleaning

Family Values And Christmas Cleaning

I was brought up in the tradition of Christmas (and Easter) Cleaning. Mind you, not just the ordinary cleaning, it was THE Cleaning. Capital C cleaning! About a week (-or two) before Christmas you would start to turn your house upside down, beating and washing the...

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10 Minutes Quiz

Is stress a normal part of your life? Do you work insanely long hours?

This 10 minutes quiz can tell you if you’re heading towards burnout or not.

Perfectionists R US

If you’re a perfectionist and would like to join a community of  like minded people, you can join my Facebook group.

Share, learn, have fun and just be yourself, un-apologetically.

Are You Exhausted And Frustrated With All The Hustling?

Would you like to have the joy and fun back into your life and business?

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You’ve read books, attended courses and workshops, and listened to inspirational audios. Still, you feel something is missing.

Would you like to have more support, attention, and accountability?

Let’s find a bespoke solution for you, to get you unstuck and accelerate your progress.

You can start by signing up for a free discovery session today. We’ll have a 45 mins conversation where you’ll discuss your problem, find a few solutions to fight it and what’s stopping you.

If we both have a sense that we get along fine we can   work together in a more organised manner.

Let’s have a chat, get to know each other a bit and we’ll take it from there.

Join my Facebook Group

 

Do you want to be seen for who you are? 
Would you like to talk with somebody who knows and understands? 

Do you want to know how others won the same battle?

You might want to join my group.
It’s a supportive community of like minded people where you can share your experiences and find inspiration. 

There you can learn to have a kinder relationship with yourself. How to prevent getting burnout. And more.
It’s a place where you can basically just be yourself, un-apologetically. 

Perfectionism can be a blessing and it can be a curse. But it doesn’t have to be lonely.

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