The Passive Aspect of a Transformation
A transformation is a dramatic change – in form, life circumstances, etc. It’s not just a modest shift that barely affects the big picture, but an extreme, radical change. So it’s not just putting on different earrings, but giving your whole wardrobe a...
Can An Assumption Get You a Free Face Massage?
"Hey, long time no see! What are you doing?" "I'm OK, just going to work" I answered"Eurgh! I know, I hate Mondays, too!" I wanted to tell him that the reason why I looked grey and felt sluggish was that I was a bit tired and trying (unsuccessfully) to...
When It’s A Good Time For A Fresh Start?
Life happens to us with ups and downs. Whether we choose to change or are forced to change, change we must. How many times have you seen yourself or other people wanting to make a fresh start? A fresh start is just another name for change - but somehow it sounds...
The Threat Of A Million WHY’s
”Stop throwing food.” - "Why?"“You can’t go across the street.” - "Why?"”No, you can’t have knives.” - "Why?""Don't hit your sister." - "Why?" If you had to look after children (yours or others'), you recognise the scenario that has millions of parents pull their...
The Myth of “I’ll Be Happy When…”
The myth of "I'll be happy when..." has been exposed over and over again. We pretty much agree that conditioning our feeling of happiness on acquiring a better car, job or partner is a sure recipe for wasting precious time in a wishful state. It's like...
To Ask Or Not To Ask?
"I can't ask for help, what if people will say no? They probably think it's not worth the trouble. It's so humiliating; better not to ask!" Did you ever feel like this? It's hard not to take it personally, especially if you had some bad experiences. You might end up...
Expressing Emotions: Trick Or Treat?
Darwin was fascinated by emotions and concluded that their job was basically to warn us quickly when a situation is safe or not. Anger gives us strength, fear teaches us to stay away from danger, and love keeps us bonded to others. But we have a complicated...
The Biggest Lie About Facing Fear
She was my client for many years. Smart, funny, creative and ambitious, she was willing to try new things and I loved working with her, popping issues one by one like soap bubbles. But there was one thing she always mulishly refused to explore because she was too...
Sisyphus Was The Father Of Perfectionists
Success, money, happy relationships - how good it would be if they came easy? The problem is, somehow it's hardwired into our system that we have to work hard for what we want. When I was in school, my mum always made me do extra homework throughout the holidays. It...
How To Stop Worrying Yourself Sick
Are you reading too much into situations or spend too much time trying to make decisions? Are you going over the same things that have already happened or might happen in the future? Do you panic at every physical discomfort and suspect some life-threatening...
Are You Fighting With The Shadows?
Overthinking, like anything else, can be both a blessing and a curse. You do it in a battle, prepare for the worst, you're a good strategist.In day to day life, it's tiresome, and you don't need it all the time. Plus, in relationships, it kills the spontaneity and...
The Yin Yang Way to Deal With Adversities
Have you seen the new Marco Polo on Netflix? While I liked the 1982 version and was totally in love with the soundtrack (Ennio Morricone!), this version had my eyes glued to the screen for hours. The episode I watched last night made me think about applying the Ying...
The Harmony of The Whole
Nobody likes to feel they're not good at something. Although we know that we can't excel in all areas, having the proof to the contrary shoved in our face is just as annoying as a pebble in your shoe. It spoils your good mood and ruffles your nice opinions about...
So You Think You Deserve To Be Successful?
We were talking for 15 minutes now about how she should have been fine. She had a solid strategy crafted, she knew what she had to do and she knew how to do it. And yet, she didn't have the success she was "supposed" to get. She felt like the little match girl,...
To Everything There Is A Season…
At the beginning of March, I had a very weird couple of weeks. Try as I might, I could not bring myself to do any significant work other than a few articles. It was as if the storms that swept over the town took my focus, inspiration and motivation with them. I did...
The Right To Appeal
In the previous post, I spoke about the importance of evaluating things in the context and how this can improve our understanding and relationships. However, you might want to extend the courtesy to yourself, when it comes to evaluating your performance, qualities,...
Are You Missing The Bigger Picture?
Shakespeare said: “Brevity is the soul of wit and tediousness.” What?? Actually, he said:“Therefore, since brevity is the soul of wit, And tediousness the limbs and outward flourishes, I will be brief.” This is an example of quoting out of context, a practice you've...
We Are More Alike, My Friends…
"We are more alike, my friends, than we are unalike." - Dr Maya Angelou Traditional Chinese medicine knew for centuries that feelings affect our body. Each organ is influenced by a specific emotion, an excess of which can lead to imbalances and serious...
The Short End Of The Stick
When it comes to perfectionism, it seems women got the short end of the stick.Not only their physiology makes them more prone to it , but they are also more prone to “inherit” a parent’s perfectionism (especially from their mothers). In addition to this, women also...
The Day I Nearly Drowned
The wind had been howling for two days and two nights, raising high walls of foamy water. The sand was assaulting our eyes, skin and nostrils; we were craving the relief of a swim, while slowly turning into burnt chicken nuggets under the blazing sun. But it was too...
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