The Day I Nearly Drowned

The Day I Nearly Drowned

The Day I Nearly Drowned

 

 

The wind had been howling for two days and two nights, raising high walls of foamy water. The sand was assaulting our eyes, skin and nostrils; we were craving the relief of a swim, while slowly turning into burnt chicken nuggets under the blazing sun.

 

But it was too dangerous, so we stayed on the beach.

 

On the third day though, the wind subsided considerably. Swimming far into the open sea was probably not a smart idea, but close to the shore, you could have a lot of fun jumping over the waves.

 

So after an hour of roasting, I joined the large group of tourists that were already in the water. The waves seemed quite strong, so I decided that going in up to my waist was safe enough. I could also feel a bit of current pushing me to the left.

 

One jump, two jumps, three jumps… and the waves took me away from the group. Another one is coming; here I am right on top…. and when I land, I no longer find the ground. I fall to the bottom of a deep hole that wasn’t there three days ago.

 

I swim upwards and barely get to breathe in when a wave hits me from behind and sends me back to the bottom.

 

OK, up you go, get some air, I encourage myself… but I don’t get to completely fill my lungs before another wave sends me heads first into the sand.

 

OK, that was scary, don’t panic, just get your head out to breath. I struggle upwards and feel the current pulling me forcefully into the sea. One good gasp and the liquid hammer turns me upside down, head on to the bottom.

 

It’s amazing how many thoughts you can have in a few seconds.

What if I can’t get out?
What if I die?
How could I have been so stupid?
I should have known better!

 

I am lucky to catch a break between waves and manage to get my head out to breathe properly. I still can’t feel the ground beneath my feet.

 

I turn around and cry out for help, hoping my voice will carry through the noise, but most people are far away and can’t see me.

 

Then a man appears to my right, and he hears me. He comes towards me and pulls me by the arm. I notice that he is actually standing, not swimming. In a few moments, my feet touch solid ground, and I’m in waist-high water again. Panting, I’m heading to the safety of the shore, but an hour later I’m still shaking.

 

The scariest thing in my near-drowning experience was how the blows kept on coming. That relentless pounding that knocked me down mercilessly and barely allowed me to gasp for air.

 

There can be many times when we have to struggle like this. When we feel that life is handing us blow after blow and we’re down at the bottom, helpless and alone.

 

As we watch others who seem to jump and glide through difficulties effortlessly, we start to judge ourselves and think we’re less than them. That somehow, it’s our fault we can’t handle the storm because we’re not good enough.

 

Anybody can fall into an unexpected pit.

Those who float and laugh aren’t better than those hit down; they are just luckier.

 

What we should never forget though, is to ask for help. Right next to us there may be somebody standing on the stable ground who can grab and hold us to safety.

 

Somebody who will be more than happy to help us, if only they knew what we’re going through.

 

But we do need to ask.

 

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Don’t Rush Into The Tardis!

Don’t Rush Into The Tardis!

Don’t Rush Into The Tardis!

 

 

Do you know the usual time travel romantic comedies?
Boy sees girl, boy likes girl, it doesn’t work out, and so he’s stuck in a repetitive day. Or he finds a device/magic artefact to go back in time.

 

Usually, after messing things over and over, he understands he has to change. Some attempts later, he becomes a better version of himself, gets the girl, happy end.

 

But this movie was different.

 

Our hero had his moments of being an idiot. Then a jerk. Then the ideal boy doing all the right things.

 

Still, he didn’t get the girl he wanted.
(And the one time he did, they were unhappy.)

 

No matter how hard he tried, she was always in love with the guy he struggled to stop her from marrying.

 

However, in all the alternate realities, he keeps meeting his “dream girl”‘s roommate. Mostly he ignores her, sometimes he gets beaten by her, usually they despise each other.

 

Until they get to talk and he discovers that she is everything that he loved. That the girl he chased was just a pale reflection who didn’t even like the same things as him.

 

And so he gets that he wasn’t supposed to change anything in the first place. Had he not been so absorbed with chasing THE (imaginary) ONE, he would have met the girl he would have been happy with.

 

Time travelling is a dream as old as… well, time.
When we lose the one we love, or when our whole lives are turned upside down in a blink of an eye, it’s only natural to want to go back.

 

But would that always be the best option?

What if we trusted more “the wisdom of the big design”?

 

The fact is, we can’t be 100% sure our choice is right until we see the consequences.

And sometimes not even then, because we don’t have ALL the data/the bigger picture.

 

So should we stop going after our dreams?
No.

 

Just, you know, while pursuing them, maybe raise our head now and then and take a look around. Maybe try and get a different perspective.

 

The answer might be just inches away from the picture we see with the tunnel vision.

 

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Tough Love

Tough Love

Tough Love

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How do you find the motivation to keep on going, when you see nothing ahead?

 

Entrepreneurship is not for the faint-hearted, they say. When you start this journey, you don’t really know what you’ve signed up for. You imagine once you put in your expertise, results will show up and money will flow in.

 

But in this day and age, it might not happen right away. The market is so crowded; it takes time, work and resources to stand out of the crowd. You may be required to have skills that are not directly related to what you do.

 

And even when you do the right things, you might need to persevere for quite some time before you get results.

 

But how do you convince yourself there is a point in what you do, and things are worthwhile?

 

Well, the answer is: you don’t. If you need convincing, maybe you shouldn’t do it.

 

What you should do is pause and take some time to think (- or sometimes, remember):

 

Why did you choose to do this? When you think of what you want, do you jump out of bed looking forward to a new day to you make it come true?

 

Ideally, you asked yourself (and got the answers to) these questions before you started. If you didn’t… the next good moment is now.

 

Stop, take a good look at your life and re-evaluate everything: values, priorities, motives.

 

Check if you do what’s important /meaningful to you or just run on autopilot. And then change your actions accordingly.

 

This being said, even when you started with a strong vision, a desire that made your heart sing, sometimes you might need support.

Why?

Because you got tired of putting in blood, sweat and tears and getting nothing in return.

 

This is when it’s good to reach out. You need a support system to have your back. That means:

1. – close friends to let off steam by sharing your frustrations and worries. They can also remind you that you have qualities and skills in those times when you see only flaws and failures.

 

2. – people who went through the same journey. Just realising that you’re not the only one having these problems helps a lot to keep your sanity. Ask them how they dealt with the blocks. What was, in their experience, the best way to do X? How did they pick themselves up and what helped them move further?

 

You’d be surprised how sometimes a little tweak in your strategy is all you need to get things going like a well-oiled machine.

 

The internet is full of false success stories, of loud ‘millionaires’ selling you the ‘X Step Proven Success Formula’. It’s a lot of noise out there.

 

But there are also many honest people who share their story, the ups and downs, the good, the bad and the ugly.

 

There was a paragraph in an article in Forbes saying:

 

“What most people call an overnight success is really just the market suddenly realizing the value of a great product or service that’d been kept in obscurity for too long while its owner stubbornly refused to give up.”

 

Starting something new is an act of courage.

Doubts and fears will always come along – that’s part of the deal.

 

But if you know you’re on the right journey, don’t let them stop you!

 

Hang in there. Learn, do the work, adjust.
Try again.

 

And hang in there.

 

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