Family Values And Christmas Cleaning

Family Values And Christmas Cleaning

Family Values And Christmas Cleaning

I was brought up in the tradition of Christmas (and Easter) Cleaning.

Mind you, not just the ordinary cleaning, it was THE Cleaning. Capital C cleaning! About a week (-or two) before Christmas you would start to turn your house upside down, beating and washing the carpets (on snow, preferably), empty cupboards, washing the china you never used (and the one you did), moving all pieces of furniture to reach and dust behind, cleaning the windows, etc. You get the idea.

 

As a child, I had my share of chores. Although never too much or too difficult for my age, I was usually muttering against it. Yes, I knew it was done to honour Christmas, but hey! after all, it was holiday and I would have rather played in the snow!

 

Later I started to enjoy it. Not only I was partaking in something important – after all, it had to be, there was so much fuss about it! – but there was a great deal of satisfaction to be got from my parents’ approval. I was a good girl because I made them proud.

 

Later on, in my own house, I discovered I really liked cleaning it. Making the windows shine was the best part. Somehow I was feeling my own clarity increasing. Of course, I wanted my efforts to be acknowledge and appreciated as well – after all the hectic work, I deserved at least this, didn’t I?

 

Fast forward few years, I am alone with my half-paralysed mum (since dad died) and working 24-48 hours shifts. Life is a continuous struggle to keep myself afloat, to maintain a light and loving disposition to support my mum, earn a living and ignore my loneliness. Christmas Cleaning becomes a burden for an exhausted body, still performing it though, like a machine.

 

Some years after that – mum passed away, life got into another sort of normality. Different job, boyfriend and all. Christmas Cleaning still having an appearance of a hard time, due to recent memories, but with strategic planning, it’s less horrific than before.

 

This year, after six days of scrubbing the floors, cleaning the windows and everything in between those spots, I realize the changes. As I look deeper into myself, I know that I am content of my work. Also, it does not feel as huge, nor as super-important as before. Each surface I polish is more of a part of myself that I am getting back. A part that is getting clearer, lighter. The borders between outside and inside became a bit blurred, scrubbing and cleaning are only mirroring the cleaning/detox program I followed for these two weeks.

 

As I look around enjoying what I see, I realize one more thing: along with the capital “C”, another thing is lost: my need to be appreciated for my work. The deep satisfaction of knowing I did a good thorough job doesn’t need any other recognition. I KNOW I am good girl.

 

How are you doing your Christmas cleaning?

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As I Began To Love Myself – by Charlie Chaplin

As I Began To Love Myself – by Charlie Chaplin

As I Began To Love Myself – by Charlie Chaplin

“As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

 

self hug 2As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

 

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.

 

As I began to love myself, I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

 

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

 

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

 

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

 

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILMENT”.

 

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

 

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know THAT IS “LIFE”!

 

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